When it comes to that proverbial fork in the road, I have no problem choosing a path and then staying the course. I will not look back nor will I second guess. I trust my gut and stubbornly see it through even if the path I chose is riddled with snakes, shadows and stickers. It might not be the path everyone else would have chosen and rarely is it the easiest path...but it's MY path and I'm always bound and determined to prove to people that there is a light at the end of any tunnel.
My life has always had a plan and a path to follow. From going to college to getting a job and then settling down to get married and have a child. I've checked off all the MAJOR life decisions that must be made....so what comes next?
I feel like we are sitting in purgatory. No path to follow and no course to take. We're just sitting here stagnant and for the longest time, this is what I thought I wanted. Well, I DO want my little family of Craig, Natalie and the pups but I'm not completely sold on the fact that the busy suburbs are where we are supposed to be.
And then you add in the weird place that Craig is in right now. He is a wonderfully talented and incredibly intelligent basketball coach - he has the perfect mixture of a deep understanding of the more technical aspects of basketball and the ability to nurture, inspire and lead his girls to become not just strong basketball players, but good all-around athletes. I love watching him coach because by knowing him so well, I can almost see the wheels turning as he paces the side line with his hands behind his back and his eyebrows furrowed. But I'm not sure if he's completely satisfied with the career he has carved out for himself at this point in time.
This is what frustrates me. I can't solve this problem for him. I can't tell him what to do, how to do it or when he needs to do it.
I hate feeling helpless. I hate not having a plan.
Friday night as I was driving home from his basketball tournament, I turned on the Pandora on my iPhone and just prayed that God would put the perfect song in rotation - one that whose message would soothe my anxious soul and help me calm my frizzy brain.
This is what came blaring through the speakers.
I might have teared up a bit as "when you find yourself in times of trouble..." floated throughout my car.
Okay. There were lots of tears.
So that is the message God wanted me to hear. To LET. IT. BE. To give Craig the time and space to figure out his own life while I just serve as his faithful and supportive wife.
My heart calmed a bit.
And then a second thought occurred to me. What a selfish and ungrateful person I am. Here I am, about to embark on the dream job I had my sights set on when I graduated from college eight years ago. This math job is the result of thousands of prayers and mindful faithfulness over the past few years and I'm practically ready to throw it away with both hands because I want something different.
In that moment, I sat completely humbled in my car and remembered my place in this universe. My job is not to make demands but instead to be grateful for the unbelievable gifts God has bestowed upon me. So I am shutting my mouth, opening my heart and waiting for God to unveil the next step in my family's life....in His perfect time and with His unwavering grace.